Situationships: The Decline of Romance in the Modern Age

Situationships

In this day and age dating as a young adult seems to be so difficult and it makes no sense why. Situationships as the young adults of this generation call it, has ruined romance... For many who may not be sure what the heck situationships are it is basically dating with no official girlfriend/boyfriend label, this also means no official commitment to each other depending on how the couple may define their situationship.

I call it the limbo in between talking and dating.

What Happened to First Dates?

Growing up many of us may have watched popular romantic-comedies with meet-cutes and first dates. As a 20 year-old woman I have experienced about 2 or 3 dates at most (horribly planned as well). It feels as though the guys in this generation don't know how to be romantic. Don't get me wrong there are quite a few good guys still out there, from what I've seen they treat their girlfriends like literal queens worshipping the ground they walk on. Unfortunately, with the uprise in these so called situationships I fear guys are starting to lack in the romance department. Atleast the ones I have interacted with.

Hook Up Culture

Many people my age tend to complain about hook up culture as well, when it comes to the lack of labels between two people we see many what is called "casual" relationships just so two people can hook up. This is my favorite topic to talk about! From athletes to frat guys and even to the pastors son. It does not matter who they seem to be many different types of guys partake in this culture. It is always dissapointing finding out who is the type of guy to tell someone "this is just casual".

Boys vs. Men

I wish I could tell you how to weed out the good guys, but when it comes to trying to figure it out I can give just a few tips. COMMUNICATE!!! look for the red flags when trying to tell them what you want. When they ignore the topic or don't answer you questions RED FLAG. When it comes to guys who lovebomb and lie straight to your face, run. Lastly, if you are having to give him multiple chances and you keep going back to him... get therapy. There's nothing more embarrasing than being known as that girl who continues to go back to a guy no matter what he has done. I've seen it with my own eyes.